IS THE PAIN FROM RELATIONSHIPS DISPROPORTIONATELY HIGHER THAN PLEASURE?
The mathematics of relationships looks somewhat warped. And this is about all relationships not just love relationships.
The pleasure that one reaps in a relationship – the proportion of fun and delight – is relatively smaller and the pain it induces by the side – the proportion of drag (at best) and misery (at worst) – is far larger.
ARE RELATIONSHIPS ENTANGLEMENTS OR ENCHANTMENTS?
To a Buddha, a relationship is perhaps a misery-inducing entanglement. And to a Krishna, it is a pleasurable enchantment. To me, both are just perspectives, useful ones at that.
What matters more is our personal truth around this deeply karmic subject, our as-lived experience, the distilled essence of the way life has treated us in this domain.
Anger can be healthy.
It helps one draw boundaries and define deal-breakers in relationships. Whether we like it or not, each of us has quite a few push-buttons. Our anger reminds others to honour our unique wiring with its myriad push-buttons. It works like the scare-crow which forestalls invasions into its territory.
I have noticed that life has its way of bringing us back to the same kind of struggles every few years. Psychology says that themes repeat every seven years.
It almost appears that existence itself seems to demand completion. And in my work as a guide to so many; more than health and wealth, I notice this trend in the area of relationships.
