Makes more sense to forgive instead of standing up for honor because honor, our self-respect could be plain ego. Forgiveness is automatic when you shift responsibility to yourself (and your karma) as the source of the event. Asking for forgiveness is as important and can be done inter-personally (sometimes backfires) or from comfort of room. If need be, It should be backed up with atonement (prayaschit) which is restorative for the other person if possible.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you condone somebody’s misdeeds or forget the lesson or let the person recreate the issue. It just means you are dropping all bitterness consciously. For bigger tragedies, take a while to feel the issue and if required express else you are just pushing emotions under the rug if you forgive too soon. Dropping the blocking energy of bitterness automatically leads to vision manifestation as well as restoration of justice in the relationship.
To see these huge benefits, Use the prayers we have provided in a slow, heart-felt, person-specific manner to give up all grudges/guilt and move into the space of gratitude and blessings for the person.
We have a small e-course on forgiveness (Which also includes my 2-hour satsang on the topic) on our e-school (with a voluntary donation if possible) for those who wish to internalise above concepts still deeper. You could be in touch with me/Stuti: 9892010234 for the same.
